100 ways to show yourself love
We’ve heard it a million times before…”you cannot love anyone unless you love yourself”. This is much easier said than done. Here are some simple ways to show yourself the love that you deserve. Choose a couple and incorporate them into your daily routine OR try an 100-day challenge, each day completing one exercise.
5 min readJul 1, 2020
- Buy yourself flowers: Trader Joes has $1.99 flowers!
- Mediate: Gaby Bernstein’s meditation package is great! She also has lots of free exercises
- Soak in a hot bath: Epsom salts & lavender are great for relaxation
- Indulge in your favorite snack
- Exercise: Everyone has at least 20 minutes a day to put aside for their body
- Journal: I like to do this when I first wake up
- Feel the sunshine on your skin
- Go on a drive
- Listen to your favorite song
- Call an old friend
- Plan a trip to somewhere you’ve never been: Getting excited about going somewhere is one of the best feelings ever
- Make a hot cup of tea, dim the lights, light a candle and play some relaxation music
- Apply essential oils
- Start a new Netflix series
- People watch
- Read a book: Today I listened to The Skinny Confidential episode #82 and Michale Bostic talked about how reading books about people who have experienced hardships is a great way to get perspective and to become more appreciative. He suggested the book Man Searching for Meaning. I will be reading this book next.
- Pet some puppies
- Plant: You can plant flowers for a pretty visual and scent or you can plant yummy fruits and veggies and watch them grow every day.
- Watch the sunrise/sunset
- Go on a beach walk/mountain hike
- Walk around your neighborhood: I go on “roomie” walks after dinner every night and it’s honestly my favorite thing
- Sit on your porch and drink your morning coffee
- Make a new recipe: If you love it, share it with others
- Learn a new word and use it
- Repeat a mantra to yourself such as “you are loved” throughout the week
- Visit somewhere that brings you happy memories
- Give thanks: Think about how thankful you are when doing this
- Wash your sheets, shave your legs and snuggle up: Come on ladies, there is no other feeling like this am I right?
- Dress up for no reason and take yourself on a date
- Eat clean
- Break a bad habit
- Get passionate about something new
- Do something out of your comfort zone, it can be small
- Talk to a stranger and truly engage with them
- Prioritize sleep
- Sing a song and dance: This will engage both hemispheres of your brain, allowing it to not wander off into anxiety and unwanted thoughts
- Put your phone down: 1 hour upon waking and 1 hour before sleep
- Eat a piece of chocolate: I’ve heard eating a piece of chocolate is more satisfying than kissing someone you love! I don’t know if I believe this but it’s worth a shot
- Complete a breathing exercise: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzCaZQqAs9I
- Get a massage: I like to do 10 minutes for 10 minutes with my friend when I don’t have the funds to get a professional massage OR I massage my own feet with lotion OR I use my back roller to help get out some tension
- Connect with your family: A simple text or phone call is all it takes
- Listen to podcasts
- Read blogs
- Clean your room/house: This will allow for your inner and outer worlds to sink
- Go through your closet and donate old clothes
- Watercolor
- Do a DIY activity, get creative!: Pinterest has the best ideas
- Try a new restaurant
- Hug yourself when you wake up and before you go to bed: sounds silly, but it’s been proven to help
- LISTEN: Stop waiting for your turn to talk and just LISTEN
- Practice positive self-talk: I LOVE the book Positive Intelligence for this.
- Be silly, let your inner child come out
- Make a list of things you’re looking forward to
- Get organized with your planner
- Add a new decoration to your house
- Do a cleanse: it can be getting rid of something for a week like alcohol or adding something in like juice
- Clean out your phone: Delete apps and pictures that no longer serve you
- Sit in front of a fireplace
- Put on some fuzzy socks
- Paint your nails
- Give yourself a face mask
- Take a cold shower: The Iceman talks about the benefits of this on his youtube channel linked above
- Go on a bike ride: I recently discovered there are rental bikes in my neighborhood and I’ve been loving it.
- Watch an old movie: Get into your feels
- Buy a film camera and take some pictures of your favorite things
- Make a vision board and hang it in your room
- Sleep in
- Write down 10 things you are grateful for
- Take an online class
- Let go of a toxic relationship
- Learn to say no if you struggle with this
- Try a therapy session: This doesn’t work for everyone but it may be life-changing for others!
- Take vitamins
- Do your research: Do not solely depend on what others tell you
- Have fun with your friends and put your worries aside
- Rearrange your living space
- Make a new friend
- Explore your spirituality
- Stretch
- Wear sunscreen, your seatbelt, a helmet, protection (lol), something you feel good in
- Take a picture of yourself that makes you feel pretty: Keep it for times where you feel otherwise
- Play in the sand and water if accessible
- Eat dessert tonight
- Do a good deed
- Check your posture
- Tell the truth
- Come clean about something that has been causing you guilt
- Set time aside to be alone
- Take a power nap if you need to
- Write a letter to a friend: You could even make a pen pal
- Finish a task that you’ve yet to complete
- Paint your room a new color
- Brush your hair, brush your teeth, GET ready for the day
- OR have a lazy day in your PJs for once
- Get a car wash
- Put on some chapstick
- Get a fresh haircut
- Get that tattoo you’ve always wanted: (Only if you’ve always wanted it, no impulse decisions here)
- Get a pet: If the time is right and you are capable of fully caring for it
- Sleepover at your friend’s house for a change in scenery OR stay in a hotel (my fav)
I hope these little acts of self-kindness serve you :) Now go on, show yourself a lil love.
